Our nervous systems have basically been coded to constantly be in fight, flight, freeze, or fawn which ultimately has us set on anxiety non-stop. We are inundated with media, marketing, and messaging about how much threat we are under and how unlikely and unable we are to feel safe – emails, bills, to-do lists, deadlines, influencers, the news, social media, economic crash, recession, war, terror; and that’s just what happens “out there”.
So what’s happening “in here”?
Fight – snapping at your kids or partner, getting angry at the news, road rage, acid reflux, or eating tough or crunchy foods…
Flight – scrolling on social media, binge-watching tv, forgetting things, second-guessing, drinking, or taking drugs…
Freeze – procrastinating, oversleeping, indecision, neck and shoulder pain, mind fog…
Fawn – people pleasing, perfectionism, imposter syndrome, burnout …
Tell me you’re not experiencing at least one of these symptoms. All of this comes with a backdrop of anxiety, overwhelm, stress, worry…
The art of war is divide and conquer, and we are internally divided, waging war on ourselves. We want a better life, we want to be happier, thinner, richer, and more lovable; heck we buy all sorts of things to achieve this. And yet in some ways, we won’t let ourselves be happier, healthier, wealthier, more like ourselves – or at least we want the route to getting this to be hard and punishing so we can feel like we deserve it.
That’s a tough truth to face.
So what if you let it be easy? What if you let yourself be taken care of? What if you give yourself the gift of feeling regulated?
Imagine if your nervous system is rested, relaxed, and regulated how much more fun, more love, more peace, more joy, and more success you could experience?
When you are empowered to know what is going on in your brain and body when you have super easy, proven, neurologically changing techniques that you can do yourself to begin to bring about change when you can give yourself compassion and stop that nagging voice in the back of your mind constantly telling you how you’re not good enough when you’re not reaching for your phone, food, drink, work, whatever to try and feel better about yourself (we all know that doesn’t work), and instead you’re taking real good care of yourself how would that make a difference in your life?
Why is this important? Because hopefully if we can bring peace within ourselves, if we can be more kind and compassionate to ourselves, if we can respond from a regulated place of calm, could we think differently? Could we act differently? Could we be different? Could this small change that starts with you become the ripple that changes things for you, your family, their peers, our people?
Like seriously, think about what would be different if you felt calm and at peace.